A New Year

I never thought my first post of 2019 would include the content that is to follow.  We have shared all the important moments of our lives as parents within these pages and felt it appropriate to share this, as well.  Shortly after our trip celebrating 10 years of marriage, we found ourselves struggling with the same struggle that has been with us since the beginning of our relationship nearly 18 years ago.  With all of our girls in school, I thought this was the right time to work towards actually fixing the problem instead of us both compromising essential parts of ourselves-  something we have always been willing to do in order to get to the next milestone or add another accomplishment to our list.  Unfortunately, we realized, after months of distance, that we were never actually going to be able to overcome our shared inability to be the kind of spouse we each needed the other to be.  In early November, we made the decision to end our marriage.  We understand the shock and awe that comes from this statement, as it was shocking for us, as well.  It has been made very clear that we present as such a happy couple, which we feel is an authentic representation of our relationship.  It is authentic because we are a really good team, great friends, loving parents to our three little ladies and committed to being grateful for all the amazing aspects of our lives.  Being happy and being fulfilled aren't the same thing.  We chose happiness over fulfillment for as long as we could.  This decision is one that comes from mutual respect for each other and a true desire for the other to find what they need.  We are fully committed to remaining a family despite the change in our relationship.  The girls will always be our main focus and we will do whatever we can to protect them from unnecessary pain.  There have been plenty of failures at grace during the last 5 months and there will surely be more in the future, but we're determined to do the next right thing one thing at a time. If you're looking for a train wreck, you'll only find a temporary derailment.  If you'd like to love us through this, we welcome your support.